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I went back to Dr. Feel Very Good's today for my official postpartum checkup -- you know, the one where your partner gets the green light to hit that, and you discuss your birth control options with your OB so you don't end up right back where you started anytime soon. Anyway, the nurse took my blood pressure, and then, with cautious optimism, I stood on the scale.
I've actually gained seven pounds, which shouldn’t be at all surprising since I can only pull my skinny jeans to my calves before they get stuck.
After my weigh-in, it was time to talk birth control: I‘m a whack-job on oral contraception. The idea of an IUD bobbing around my uterus makes me nervous and twitchy. And, the whole breastfeeding as birth control thing obviously doesn‘t work for me. So, I told Dr. Feel Very Good that I wanted a diaphragm.
Well, Dr. Feel Very Good brought over a tray of eight diaphragms ranging in size from 12 Year Old Virgin to Geriatric Streetwalker. Seriously - the largest diaphragm looked about as big as Little Homie’s head. How can women let themselves go like that? Since about five minutes after giving birth, I’ve been doing my kiegel exercises religiously (if you ever see me sitting in repose, trust me, I’m actually very hard at work down there,) I laid back with my legs in the stirrups, my vajeen ready for inspection, confident that I’d walk away with a respectably small diaphragm -- not 12 Year Old Virgin Small, but close enough.
I stared at the ceiling while Dr. Feel Very Good rooted around my Lady Business for a while, palpitating my uterus to make sure it had returned to its original size.
Well, the good news is my uterus was nice and small.
But the rest of me? Not so much.
After getting a feel for my Lady Business, Dr. Feel Very Good looked over the tray of diaphragms. His eyes barely lingered on the smaller ones, and I began to get nervous. After all, one of the best compliments a woman can get from a man is “Oh baby, you‘re pussy is so tight!”
Clearly, my approach to parenting wasn‘t the only thing that had loosened up since giving birth to Little Homie.
After ignoring the Diaphragm Petite Section, Dr. Feel Very Good’s fingers skirted over the last three largest ones. I felt a stone of panic settle in my chest, and in sheer desperation, I frantically did a ten-set of kiegels. But it was too late. Dr. Feel Very Good selected the Geriatric Streetwalker diaphragm, folded it like a pita and slipped it in.
“How does that feel?” he asked from between my legs, and I swear I heard an echo.
I couldn’t even tell it was in there.
“Oh, that’s so uncomfortable,” I lied. “I think we need a smaller size.”
“Hmmm…” Dr. Feel Very Good said as he searched in vain for the Geriatric Streetwalker that had somehow gotten lost in my Lonesome Valley.
Saturday, May 1, 2010
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
One Summer Night
As a child growing up in Venice, California, my parents and I spent our sunsets strolling South along Ocean Front Walk. We enjoyed checking out the architectural anomalies along the way -- the homes that stared down the sea and sky were almost cartoonish with their clown colors and garish asymmetry. And, every evening -- except when the fog rolled in -- their windows were lit on fire with the colors of the sky, and walking past them, it felt like we were surrounded by the sunset, completely enveloped on all sides in a primordial orgy of red, violet and gold.
My parents and I loved our evening walks, when the sun lay low on the lip of the sea, and the wind sashayed through the Palm Trees. Usually, we'd just stroll down to the old Venice Pier, and then turn around again, but once in a while, we'd linger on, and have dinner at one of the restaurants on Washington Boulevard.
One of our favorite places to go was The Crab Shell, a large restaurant-slash-bar painted Pepto-Bismol pink with mighty windows boldly facing the sea. My mom loved this place because they served up a mean Bloody Mary, delicately spiced and garnished with not one, but two crisp celery stalks.
"Never trust a Bloody Mary without celery." She would say, offering me a tiny sip of her spicy drink.
I loved The Crab Shell because of the abalone ash trays set out on each worn wooden table. I thought that the knobbly shells with their insides of pearly rainbow smear looked like something that a mermaid princess would use, and I would watch intently as my mom and her Marlboro Lights would coat the inside of the shell with a delicate layer of ash. This was in the mid 1980's before the California State Legislature (finally) bitch-slapped smokers, banishing them 20 feet from all restaurant and business entryways, forcing them to hide their nicotine stained shame deep in the shadows of dumpster-lined alleys.
Usually, when we went to the Crab Shell, we'd order fish and chips and a huge basket of the most greasy and delicious french fries in the world. My mom would sip a solitary Bloody Mary, my dad would have a cup of strong black coffee, and I would be allowed a Shirley Temple with two maraschino cherries. Usually, we'd head back home just as the last fingers of sunset were slipping in to the sea. But one balmy summer night, my mom happened to have a pack of playing cards in her purse, and so, for the next few hours, we nibbled on french-fries and played Go Fish.
By the time the moon rose in the sky, the abalone shell on the table had lost it's opalescent luster under a mound of my mom's cigarette butts.
"Darling, shall we head out?" my dad asked.
"Oh no!" she said, dabbing her mouth with a napkin, and enunciating very carefully, "I think we should stay and play another round of Go Fish."
"But it's getting late," my dad replied. I stole a peak at his wrist watch, shocked that it was already 9:00 -- an hour past my bedtime.
"But we're having so much fun!" she said, taking a long swig from her third Bloody Mary. "Besides, one day Sarah will be too grown up to play Go Fish with us."
"Mom, I'll never be too old to play Go Fish with you and Dad." I said.
She smiled sadly, holding her Bloody Mary glass and gazing at me with hazy eyes.
"You will." She said.
And so, we stayed for a while, and played another round of Go Fish beneath the anemic glow of the neon bar sign.
That night, I felt like I had been let in on a secret I didn't want to know. I didn't want things to change, but for the first time in my life, I understood that they would. I looked out toward the inky black sea, listening to the rhythmic waves slamming down on the shore beating like an eternal, ancient pulse. In that moment, more than anything I wished that I could stop the inexorability of time, and stay in that summer when I was seven years old. But, instead, I walked heavily home, while my mom danced with the wind in between the palm trees.
As a child growing up in Venice, California, my parents and I spent our sunsets strolling South along Ocean Front Walk. We enjoyed checking out the architectural anomalies along the way -- the homes that stared down the sea and sky were almost cartoonish with their clown colors and garish asymmetry. And, every evening -- except when the fog rolled in -- their windows were lit on fire with the colors of the sky, and walking past them, it felt like we were surrounded by the sunset, completely enveloped on all sides in a primordial orgy of red, violet and gold.
My parents and I loved our evening walks, when the sun lay low on the lip of the sea, and the wind sashayed through the Palm Trees. Usually, we'd just stroll down to the old Venice Pier, and then turn around again, but once in a while, we'd linger on, and have dinner at one of the restaurants on Washington Boulevard.
One of our favorite places to go was The Crab Shell, a large restaurant-slash-bar painted Pepto-Bismol pink with mighty windows boldly facing the sea. My mom loved this place because they served up a mean Bloody Mary, delicately spiced and garnished with not one, but two crisp celery stalks.
"Never trust a Bloody Mary without celery." She would say, offering me a tiny sip of her spicy drink.
I loved The Crab Shell because of the abalone ash trays set out on each worn wooden table. I thought that the knobbly shells with their insides of pearly rainbow smear looked like something that a mermaid princess would use, and I would watch intently as my mom and her Marlboro Lights would coat the inside of the shell with a delicate layer of ash. This was in the mid 1980's before the California State Legislature (finally) bitch-slapped smokers, banishing them 20 feet from all restaurant and business entryways, forcing them to hide their nicotine stained shame deep in the shadows of dumpster-lined alleys.
Usually, when we went to the Crab Shell, we'd order fish and chips and a huge basket of the most greasy and delicious french fries in the world. My mom would sip a solitary Bloody Mary, my dad would have a cup of strong black coffee, and I would be allowed a Shirley Temple with two maraschino cherries. Usually, we'd head back home just as the last fingers of sunset were slipping in to the sea. But one balmy summer night, my mom happened to have a pack of playing cards in her purse, and so, for the next few hours, we nibbled on french-fries and played Go Fish.
By the time the moon rose in the sky, the abalone shell on the table had lost it's opalescent luster under a mound of my mom's cigarette butts.
"Darling, shall we head out?" my dad asked.
"Oh no!" she said, dabbing her mouth with a napkin, and enunciating very carefully, "I think we should stay and play another round of Go Fish."
"But it's getting late," my dad replied. I stole a peak at his wrist watch, shocked that it was already 9:00 -- an hour past my bedtime.
"But we're having so much fun!" she said, taking a long swig from her third Bloody Mary. "Besides, one day Sarah will be too grown up to play Go Fish with us."
"Mom, I'll never be too old to play Go Fish with you and Dad." I said.
She smiled sadly, holding her Bloody Mary glass and gazing at me with hazy eyes.
"You will." She said.
And so, we stayed for a while, and played another round of Go Fish beneath the anemic glow of the neon bar sign.
That night, I felt like I had been let in on a secret I didn't want to know. I didn't want things to change, but for the first time in my life, I understood that they would. I looked out toward the inky black sea, listening to the rhythmic waves slamming down on the shore beating like an eternal, ancient pulse. In that moment, more than anything I wished that I could stop the inexorability of time, and stay in that summer when I was seven years old. But, instead, I walked heavily home, while my mom danced with the wind in between the palm trees.
Monday, March 29, 2010
War and Trees
The day before my mom's funeral was bright and windy, and our house was overcrowded by an infestation of family and friends. While it was comforting to have so many caring people around who loved my mom, seeing as my dad was staggering through grief by leading everyone in a medley of Patriotic songs, and describing my mom's cancer as though it were a great World War II battle, the burden of hosting fell mostly on me, my Aunt M and Aunt E who had both flown in from the East Coast.
"And there we were, the allied forces of chemotherapy ramming the hell out of the Nazi cancer cells... It was Stalingrad all over again, Ladies and Gentleman" my dad said as he held forth.... I had only heard him tell this story about three thousand times so I quietly excused myself.
I had to get outside for a cigarette. I crouched down between two parked cars and lit up, all the while thinking to myself that she would kill me if she knew I was copying her digusting, self-polluting habit.
While I sat there, letting the sweet nicotine rush through me (and trying to avoid detection), I noticed a tired green van chugging along down the hill. When it turned onto our driveway, I quickly stubbed out my cigarette, and got up to see who was inside. A surprisingly spry old man hopped out of the front seat and announced that he was here to deliver flowers. I offered to take the anemic looking lilies, and he seemed satisfied. But then, as he was about to get back into his van, his brows knit, and he said, "you really shouldn't be smoking..."
"How did you know I was smoking?" I asked, surprised that he had seen me hidden between the cars.
"I know a lot of things," he replied.
He stood there for a while, looking up at the sky and watching a lone cloud get shredded by the wind. Then, he reached into his pocket and said, "you can have this -- it'll help."
He opened his worn, creased hand, and there, in the center of his dirt-encrusted palm was a little yellow pill winking at me...
"Its Ecstasy!" he announced triumphantly. "Here! take it!"
I said "No" and he seemed disappointed. As he climbed back into his van, his gaze landed on our neighbor's lush magnolia tree. "Do you think I could take some branches?" he asked... "They are such beautiful flowers." I told him I thought the trees were public property, and that he could, and so the elderly florist stopped the engine, hopped out of the vehicle, hauled a ladder from the back of the van and placed it against the tree. With a nod, a wink and a smile he ascended into the myriad of leaves, and disappeared.
"And there we were, the allied forces of chemotherapy ramming the hell out of the Nazi cancer cells... It was Stalingrad all over again, Ladies and Gentleman" my dad said as he held forth.... I had only heard him tell this story about three thousand times so I quietly excused myself.
I had to get outside for a cigarette. I crouched down between two parked cars and lit up, all the while thinking to myself that she would kill me if she knew I was copying her digusting, self-polluting habit.
While I sat there, letting the sweet nicotine rush through me (and trying to avoid detection), I noticed a tired green van chugging along down the hill. When it turned onto our driveway, I quickly stubbed out my cigarette, and got up to see who was inside. A surprisingly spry old man hopped out of the front seat and announced that he was here to deliver flowers. I offered to take the anemic looking lilies, and he seemed satisfied. But then, as he was about to get back into his van, his brows knit, and he said, "you really shouldn't be smoking..."
"How did you know I was smoking?" I asked, surprised that he had seen me hidden between the cars.
"I know a lot of things," he replied.
He stood there for a while, looking up at the sky and watching a lone cloud get shredded by the wind. Then, he reached into his pocket and said, "you can have this -- it'll help."
He opened his worn, creased hand, and there, in the center of his dirt-encrusted palm was a little yellow pill winking at me...
"Its Ecstasy!" he announced triumphantly. "Here! take it!"
I said "No" and he seemed disappointed. As he climbed back into his van, his gaze landed on our neighbor's lush magnolia tree. "Do you think I could take some branches?" he asked... "They are such beautiful flowers." I told him I thought the trees were public property, and that he could, and so the elderly florist stopped the engine, hopped out of the vehicle, hauled a ladder from the back of the van and placed it against the tree. With a nod, a wink and a smile he ascended into the myriad of leaves, and disappeared.
Friday, March 26, 2010
The Boobs, The Bra, and The Bully
On my first day of middle school, I was horrified to discover that I would actually have to take off my shirt in a locker-room full of strangers. You see, at that point in my prepubescent life, my runt-boobs didn't even need a training bra, and since it hadn't occurred to me that I might be seen topless, I hadn't purchased a bra for the occasion. So, I did what any other shy, scared, under-developed 7th grader would do: While the girls far more breast-blessed than I strutted around the locker-room in their black lace bras like something out of a twisted dream sequence in Vladimir Nabokov's Lolita, I grabbed my shirt and shorts and changed in the bathroom stall.
And so, for the first two weeks of school, I would scurry to the scuzzy gym bathroom and lock myself in a cramped stall before each PE class. I was sure my clandestine maneuvers had gone unnoticed, until one day, on my way into the bathroom, an 8th grade girl with big breasts and an even bigger mouth, pointed at me and said loudly, "Girl, why are you always changing in the bathroom? You got something to hide?" Um, obviously, yeah, I did have something to hide, but I wasn't about to tell her that, so I pretended I hadn't heard her and scuttled off to my stall. After class, she was waiting for me with a few of her friends.
"How come we never seen your titties?" She said, practically without a question mark. "Maybe you aren't a girl after all." Her friends slapped her a few high-fives, and cackled fiendishly.
So, after school that day, I dragged my mom to the Westside Pavilion for a little late afternoon bra shopping.
"But honey, you don't really need a bra." She said gently.
Still, she humored me. The Junior's Department at Macy's had an assortment of pastel training bras listlessly hanging from the clothing racks. Some bras were festooned with flowers, others had bows. All looked anemic and sad. The sales girl came over to help us, and after eyeballing my puny chest for a few minutes, she said "well, we better try something in extra small."
Yeah, I got the memo. I have no boobs. Thank you, Captain Obvious.
She handed me a few pathetic polka-dotted training bras that were more like undershirts minus the midsection than actual bras, and I went into the dressing room to try them on.
While I resented the pale and pathetic training bras the salesgirl gave me, I knew that if I didn't undress in the locker-room the next day, the 8th grade girls would tell everyone that I was a boy. And, if I didn't cover up my nonexistent breasts and mosquito bite-sized nipples with some sort of bra, they might actually believe their cruel little rumor.
And so, under the judgmental lights of the junior's department dressing room, I took off my shirt, and put on the only training bra that actually had the illusion of cups. (Hey, a girl can dream, right?) Anyway, my meager mammaries had room to spare in the extra small polka-dotted training bra, and I actually looked more flat chested with it on, than without. As I glared at myself in the mirror, hating my body, the brutal locker-room scene from the movie Carrie flashed before my eyes, and I felt a hard lump form in my throat. My mom poked her head in to see how I was doing, and I started sobbing. She wrapped her arms around me and held me against her chest while she rocked me like a baby. "Shhh..." she said. "Shhh...It'll be ok." She let me cry for a few minutes and then said "Let's try some place else."
So, we left Macy's with nary a training bra, and headed down the mall to Victoria's Secret. There, we found an attractive, but modest black satin number in 32 AAA which not only fit, but even gave me a hint of cleavage. And, I couldn't wait to take of my top in the locker-room the next day.
But even with my cute, black satin bra, I yearned for bigger breasts. While I certainly felt more comfortable undressing in the locker-room -- especially after I received a nod of approval from my big-breasted, big-mouthed bully, I continued to secretly covet the voluptuous figures of the confident 8th grade girls.
When I confided these feelings to my mom, she smiled and said, "You know, Pumpkin, having small breasts is actually a good thing."
"Really?" I asked, unconvinced.
"Yes, really. Because at least you know that they won't be sagging down to your vagina by the time you're 30."
Flashforward 15 years later -- past puberty, past pregnancy -- and where are my boobs? You guessed it. Yeah, Irony's a big-titted bitch. And while I cram myself into a 32 H maternity bra, (yes, that's H as in Holy Shit) I am the full-figured embodiment of the mantra, "be careful what you wish for."
And so, for the first two weeks of school, I would scurry to the scuzzy gym bathroom and lock myself in a cramped stall before each PE class. I was sure my clandestine maneuvers had gone unnoticed, until one day, on my way into the bathroom, an 8th grade girl with big breasts and an even bigger mouth, pointed at me and said loudly, "Girl, why are you always changing in the bathroom? You got something to hide?" Um, obviously, yeah, I did have something to hide, but I wasn't about to tell her that, so I pretended I hadn't heard her and scuttled off to my stall. After class, she was waiting for me with a few of her friends.
"How come we never seen your titties?" She said, practically without a question mark. "Maybe you aren't a girl after all." Her friends slapped her a few high-fives, and cackled fiendishly.
So, after school that day, I dragged my mom to the Westside Pavilion for a little late afternoon bra shopping.
"But honey, you don't really need a bra." She said gently.
Still, she humored me. The Junior's Department at Macy's had an assortment of pastel training bras listlessly hanging from the clothing racks. Some bras were festooned with flowers, others had bows. All looked anemic and sad. The sales girl came over to help us, and after eyeballing my puny chest for a few minutes, she said "well, we better try something in extra small."
Yeah, I got the memo. I have no boobs. Thank you, Captain Obvious.
She handed me a few pathetic polka-dotted training bras that were more like undershirts minus the midsection than actual bras, and I went into the dressing room to try them on.
While I resented the pale and pathetic training bras the salesgirl gave me, I knew that if I didn't undress in the locker-room the next day, the 8th grade girls would tell everyone that I was a boy. And, if I didn't cover up my nonexistent breasts and mosquito bite-sized nipples with some sort of bra, they might actually believe their cruel little rumor.
And so, under the judgmental lights of the junior's department dressing room, I took off my shirt, and put on the only training bra that actually had the illusion of cups. (Hey, a girl can dream, right?) Anyway, my meager mammaries had room to spare in the extra small polka-dotted training bra, and I actually looked more flat chested with it on, than without. As I glared at myself in the mirror, hating my body, the brutal locker-room scene from the movie Carrie flashed before my eyes, and I felt a hard lump form in my throat. My mom poked her head in to see how I was doing, and I started sobbing. She wrapped her arms around me and held me against her chest while she rocked me like a baby. "Shhh..." she said. "Shhh...It'll be ok." She let me cry for a few minutes and then said "Let's try some place else."
So, we left Macy's with nary a training bra, and headed down the mall to Victoria's Secret. There, we found an attractive, but modest black satin number in 32 AAA which not only fit, but even gave me a hint of cleavage. And, I couldn't wait to take of my top in the locker-room the next day.
But even with my cute, black satin bra, I yearned for bigger breasts. While I certainly felt more comfortable undressing in the locker-room -- especially after I received a nod of approval from my big-breasted, big-mouthed bully, I continued to secretly covet the voluptuous figures of the confident 8th grade girls.
When I confided these feelings to my mom, she smiled and said, "You know, Pumpkin, having small breasts is actually a good thing."
"Really?" I asked, unconvinced.
"Yes, really. Because at least you know that they won't be sagging down to your vagina by the time you're 30."
Flashforward 15 years later -- past puberty, past pregnancy -- and where are my boobs? You guessed it. Yeah, Irony's a big-titted bitch. And while I cram myself into a 32 H maternity bra, (yes, that's H as in Holy Shit) I am the full-figured embodiment of the mantra, "be careful what you wish for."
Thursday, March 25, 2010
A Berkeley Fable
Once upon a time -- long before Little Homie, or The Girl, or even Sexy Boy existed in my life -- I lived in a small sunlight room with huge windows in a shared house with about 20 other people in Berkeley, California. Over the years that he had owned the property, our landlord, Francois and his gentleman friend, Tony, had turned the communal area into a Feng Shui nightmare: Large red banners embossed with Chinese characters hung from the walls, next to framed black and white prints of Elvis, the Brady Bunch, and Jesus. The couch was a vomit-colored tweed number that smelled like mildew, and on the large chrome dining room table sat a rotting bamboo plant that was home to a family of flies.
Francois, was a feather of a man, who, Monday through Friday, would flutter around the house in large Hawaiian print shirts that floated around his tiny frame like a polyester rainbow.
But on Saturdays, armed with a pail and mop, Francois would storm out of his room, colorless and drab in grey work clothes : First, he’d attack the ash trays in the communal areas. Then, he‘d scrub the toilets and the bathtubs muttering obscenities just loud enough for everyone to hear. (“The toilet bowl is right there you fucking fuck fuck. Your daddy did a piss poor job of teaching you how to aim, you bitchface.”) Then, he’d sweep the kitchen, and don pink dishwashing gloves as he glared at the sink piled high with crusty dishes. With a bottle of lemon scented dish soap and a sponge, he’d lay siege, scrubbing each pot and pan until they gleamed, washing the plates and silverware, stacking everything neatly in the drying rack. Afterward, with a satisfied sigh, Francois would post passive-aggressive reminders like “It’s nice to clean up after yourself!” or “a clean house makes everyone happy!“ in front of the sink.
After cleaning on Saturday, Francois would leave -- slamming the door so hard the entire house shook.
We would never see him on Sundays.
And again and again and again, during the week while Francois flittered and glittered down dark hallways and up and down stairs humming show tunes or Mozart's Eine Kleine Nacht Musik, inevitably someone would scrawl “Nice Try” or “Not gonna happen” or “Fight the power” on his homemade signs, and the ash trays would fill up again, and the toilet bowls would lose their sparkle. Again and again and again.
The people living in our house were the same folks you'd see shuffling up and down Telegraph Avenue, freaked out and tweaked out on drugs and disappointment. In fact, the woman in the far back bedroom was in and out of jail so much for selling Speed that I'm not even sure why she bothered to pay rent at all. Even though I wasn't strung out on anything -- (no, smoking weed does not count when you live in Berkeley) -- I was at the point in my life where I had just gotten out of a relationship with my high school boyfriend, had nothing to lose, and I began to thrive in the Bohemian underbelly.
And, I loved my sun-drenched room: Hanging from the curtain rod were hand blown glass ornaments that snatched the sunlight and hurdled it to the bed in varying rainbows. Each night, I burned incense and vanilla-scented candles which made my room smell sultry and exotic, and I‘d sit at the old desk I bought off of Craig list.com, smoke a cigarette, and face the stars. I always had fresh flowers on my desk, and I relished the comfort of sitting back in my comfy chair under the glow of my mock-Tiffany reading lamp and pouring over a good book while listening to Natasha Atlas or Cheb Khalid play from my mp3 collection on the computer. These were easy times, sometimes passed in lucid contemplation, other times spent high as a kite.
While I was on reasonably good terms with everyone in the house, there was one woman who made me a little uneasy. Terry was like a Lioness: long, lean and predatory, and when she wasn't yelling about The Man keeping her down, she would stride through the halls, fierce and frightening. Her head was tightly wrapped in a batik scarf, and her face looked like it had been rearranged in more than one bar-fight, so I did my best to stay out of her way.
On the other end of the spectrum, was a guy named Joe, who lived a few rooms down. Joe was a Bay Area DJ and musician, and he spent his time smoking weed, spinning reggae and hip-hop records and creating his own beats. He had a small tattoo of his astrological sign (Cancer) on his left bicep, and a large tattoo of Africa on his right. The guy was pure poetry, and I liked his flow.
One lazy Sunday afternoon, while I was dozing off in a pool of sunlight on my bed, I was shaken awake by stomps and shouts in the hallway. Terry was angry. Again. I kept my door closed, but within a few minutes, I heard the floorboards creak outside my door, and she began pounding.
"Open the fucking door. I know you're in there! I can hear you breathing!" she yelled.
"What's wrong?" I asked, keeping my door locked.
"Did you steal my ice cream?"
"No." I replied through the safety of my closed door.
"Well, Imma find out who did, and when I do, Imma bust a cap in their sorry ass." she announced, as she proceeded down the hall, bellowing and banging.
After a short while, I heard Terry shout "You pussy ass bitch, I know you stole my ice cream."
Cautiously, my heart galloping in my chest, I peeked my head out of my room to find out who Terry had accused, and was surprised to see her head-to-head with my friend, Joe.
"Terry, I did not steal your ice cream. I don't even like ice cream," Joe said as calmly as he could in the looming shadow of a 5 foot, 11 inch woman, about to pounce and dismember him.
"I know you ate my ice cream.“ she said in a hiss. “I can smell it on you.”
Then, she punched him the jaw. Hard.
Joe whipped out his phone and started dialing 9-1-1.
"Oh, you are not calling the police you pussy ass bitch" Terry hollered, while Joe tried to maneuver away from her. She strode down the stairs after him, slapping at his hands and face while he spoke with the 9-1-1 dispatcher. I cautiously followed, intrigued by the prospect of Berkeley cops in our home. (For those of you wondering, I love a man in uniform almost as much as I love a man in a white coat and scrubs.)
Five minutes later, sirens blaring in a blaze of red and blue lights, the police arrived. (Sadly, neither were worth my time.) After frisking Joe (which made absolutely no sense to me since he was the one who called them in the first place) the cops separated my housemates, and took them outside for questioning. In the end, Joe decided not to press charges, but Terry was still seething.
"We gonna settle this when Francois comes home." she said.
"That's right." J replied. "Francois is gonna handle this."
Oh. Great. Francois, our Feng Shui Fabulous landlord -- who weights about 110 pounds soaking wet, and comes up to my chin with lifts in his shoes -- would solve everything. Hey, maybe he could post a few signs. That ought to fix the problem.
But In the end, the police presence forced everyone to take a deep breath, and the rest of the afternoon passed quietly. Terry stomped off to her room, vowing vengeance. Joe went back upstairs to spin some records and get high, and yes, I joined him. Like so many things that happened every day in Berkeley during that time in my life, I figured the ice cream incident would gradually melt away, and soon be forgotten.
Well, late that night, I returned home from an evening drinking beer at Raleighs with Lieneche. As I walked through the darkened communal area under the watchful eyes of Elvis, the Brady Bunch, and Jesus, I was jolted out of my beer-haze by the cozy image of Terry and Joe sitting side-by-side at the large dining room table, laughing, talking, and eating ice cream together out of matching bowls.
Not wanting to ruin their companionable moment, I quietly turned around and headed upstairs. The next morning, while puttering around in the kitchen, I saw Joe and asked him how things had worked out with Terry. He explained that after the two shared a few companionable bong hits, they decided to take the high road and go halfsies on a pint of Ben & Jerry's Half-Baked from Andronico's. It seemed like a perfect ending, and the two lived happily ever after...
...Until Terry's Garden Ranch salad dressing disappeared from the refrigerator a week later...
Francois, was a feather of a man, who, Monday through Friday, would flutter around the house in large Hawaiian print shirts that floated around his tiny frame like a polyester rainbow.
But on Saturdays, armed with a pail and mop, Francois would storm out of his room, colorless and drab in grey work clothes : First, he’d attack the ash trays in the communal areas. Then, he‘d scrub the toilets and the bathtubs muttering obscenities just loud enough for everyone to hear. (“The toilet bowl is right there you fucking fuck fuck. Your daddy did a piss poor job of teaching you how to aim, you bitchface.”) Then, he’d sweep the kitchen, and don pink dishwashing gloves as he glared at the sink piled high with crusty dishes. With a bottle of lemon scented dish soap and a sponge, he’d lay siege, scrubbing each pot and pan until they gleamed, washing the plates and silverware, stacking everything neatly in the drying rack. Afterward, with a satisfied sigh, Francois would post passive-aggressive reminders like “It’s nice to clean up after yourself!” or “a clean house makes everyone happy!“ in front of the sink.
After cleaning on Saturday, Francois would leave -- slamming the door so hard the entire house shook.
We would never see him on Sundays.
And again and again and again, during the week while Francois flittered and glittered down dark hallways and up and down stairs humming show tunes or Mozart's Eine Kleine Nacht Musik, inevitably someone would scrawl “Nice Try” or “Not gonna happen” or “Fight the power” on his homemade signs, and the ash trays would fill up again, and the toilet bowls would lose their sparkle. Again and again and again.
The people living in our house were the same folks you'd see shuffling up and down Telegraph Avenue, freaked out and tweaked out on drugs and disappointment. In fact, the woman in the far back bedroom was in and out of jail so much for selling Speed that I'm not even sure why she bothered to pay rent at all. Even though I wasn't strung out on anything -- (no, smoking weed does not count when you live in Berkeley) -- I was at the point in my life where I had just gotten out of a relationship with my high school boyfriend, had nothing to lose, and I began to thrive in the Bohemian underbelly.
And, I loved my sun-drenched room: Hanging from the curtain rod were hand blown glass ornaments that snatched the sunlight and hurdled it to the bed in varying rainbows. Each night, I burned incense and vanilla-scented candles which made my room smell sultry and exotic, and I‘d sit at the old desk I bought off of Craig list.com, smoke a cigarette, and face the stars. I always had fresh flowers on my desk, and I relished the comfort of sitting back in my comfy chair under the glow of my mock-Tiffany reading lamp and pouring over a good book while listening to Natasha Atlas or Cheb Khalid play from my mp3 collection on the computer. These were easy times, sometimes passed in lucid contemplation, other times spent high as a kite.
While I was on reasonably good terms with everyone in the house, there was one woman who made me a little uneasy. Terry was like a Lioness: long, lean and predatory, and when she wasn't yelling about The Man keeping her down, she would stride through the halls, fierce and frightening. Her head was tightly wrapped in a batik scarf, and her face looked like it had been rearranged in more than one bar-fight, so I did my best to stay out of her way.
On the other end of the spectrum, was a guy named Joe, who lived a few rooms down. Joe was a Bay Area DJ and musician, and he spent his time smoking weed, spinning reggae and hip-hop records and creating his own beats. He had a small tattoo of his astrological sign (Cancer) on his left bicep, and a large tattoo of Africa on his right. The guy was pure poetry, and I liked his flow.
One lazy Sunday afternoon, while I was dozing off in a pool of sunlight on my bed, I was shaken awake by stomps and shouts in the hallway. Terry was angry. Again. I kept my door closed, but within a few minutes, I heard the floorboards creak outside my door, and she began pounding.
"Open the fucking door. I know you're in there! I can hear you breathing!" she yelled.
"What's wrong?" I asked, keeping my door locked.
"Did you steal my ice cream?"
"No." I replied through the safety of my closed door.
"Well, Imma find out who did, and when I do, Imma bust a cap in their sorry ass." she announced, as she proceeded down the hall, bellowing and banging.
After a short while, I heard Terry shout "You pussy ass bitch, I know you stole my ice cream."
Cautiously, my heart galloping in my chest, I peeked my head out of my room to find out who Terry had accused, and was surprised to see her head-to-head with my friend, Joe.
"Terry, I did not steal your ice cream. I don't even like ice cream," Joe said as calmly as he could in the looming shadow of a 5 foot, 11 inch woman, about to pounce and dismember him.
"I know you ate my ice cream.“ she said in a hiss. “I can smell it on you.”
Then, she punched him the jaw. Hard.
Joe whipped out his phone and started dialing 9-1-1.
"Oh, you are not calling the police you pussy ass bitch" Terry hollered, while Joe tried to maneuver away from her. She strode down the stairs after him, slapping at his hands and face while he spoke with the 9-1-1 dispatcher. I cautiously followed, intrigued by the prospect of Berkeley cops in our home. (For those of you wondering, I love a man in uniform almost as much as I love a man in a white coat and scrubs.)
Five minutes later, sirens blaring in a blaze of red and blue lights, the police arrived. (Sadly, neither were worth my time.) After frisking Joe (which made absolutely no sense to me since he was the one who called them in the first place) the cops separated my housemates, and took them outside for questioning. In the end, Joe decided not to press charges, but Terry was still seething.
"We gonna settle this when Francois comes home." she said.
"That's right." J replied. "Francois is gonna handle this."
Oh. Great. Francois, our Feng Shui Fabulous landlord -- who weights about 110 pounds soaking wet, and comes up to my chin with lifts in his shoes -- would solve everything. Hey, maybe he could post a few signs. That ought to fix the problem.
But In the end, the police presence forced everyone to take a deep breath, and the rest of the afternoon passed quietly. Terry stomped off to her room, vowing vengeance. Joe went back upstairs to spin some records and get high, and yes, I joined him. Like so many things that happened every day in Berkeley during that time in my life, I figured the ice cream incident would gradually melt away, and soon be forgotten.
Well, late that night, I returned home from an evening drinking beer at Raleighs with Lieneche. As I walked through the darkened communal area under the watchful eyes of Elvis, the Brady Bunch, and Jesus, I was jolted out of my beer-haze by the cozy image of Terry and Joe sitting side-by-side at the large dining room table, laughing, talking, and eating ice cream together out of matching bowls.
Not wanting to ruin their companionable moment, I quietly turned around and headed upstairs. The next morning, while puttering around in the kitchen, I saw Joe and asked him how things had worked out with Terry. He explained that after the two shared a few companionable bong hits, they decided to take the high road and go halfsies on a pint of Ben & Jerry's Half-Baked from Andronico's. It seemed like a perfect ending, and the two lived happily ever after...
...Until Terry's Garden Ranch salad dressing disappeared from the refrigerator a week later...
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